October 9, 2013
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Psychotic to Parent?
I have decided that parenting is totally bipolar. The emotions and moments you have with kids are often extreme and swing total 180s in seconds. Example: I was totally proud and enamoured with Ava's intelligence when she, out of the blue, asked me why we call things that are see through "transparent" when "parent" means mom or dad. I mean, that's genius shit for a second grader. Less than 5 minutes later, I had to send her to her room because of my extreme frustration with her lack of concentration with her schoolwork, she simply was not trying. At all. Stuff she's done for 2 years she suddenly couldn't figure out in math. It's like, you've got to be kidding me, I know you know this. I know for a fact you know this. Who does she think she is fooling? It isn't me.
So I went from being extremely proud to extremely frustrated in just moments. She was genius one second and ignorant the next. WTF?
It's really damn bipolar being a parent. That's what is so exhausting as they get older. When they're babies it's exhausting because of the lack of sleep. But as they age, it's because they spin you around in emotional circles and it's mentally challenging to try and right yourself and them at the same time. Sometimes, kids get time out because mom and dad need the break. That's the real parenting truth.
Comments (6)
I agree 1000%. I've been trying lately not to be "mean dad" because, as adorable as my kids can be, they can also be very stubborn and frustratingly disobedient. So I do not judge or fault you for the Mental Health Breaks. I've taken more than a few myself... for the sake of my sanity.
I think there possibly has to be a place for mean dad, too. Just 1-5% of the time. Mean isn't cruel. Mean isn't abusive. But nice dad is a pushover. That can't be good.
Yes yes yes!! Oh my goodness. Brianna goes to school and she behaves and gets "rock stars" for responsibility and cooperation and what not... and then she's a royal terror at home, lol. I feel like she respects her teacher more than me. It's nuts. And you just never know! So I feel ya! Hugs!
Aw man, that's how my kids are with babysitters - perfect behavior. Which is good, I mean I wouldn't want them to be bad for others, just like I'm sure you're glad Briana is a rock star (so cute) in school. But gosh. Wouldn't it be nice if moms didn't always get shit on by their kids? Literally as babies, figuratively as they age (freaking attitudes).
Our kids need to see us in all our states, but mostly they need us to be even keeled. Sometimes I had to pretend to be angry with a behavior to make a point even though I wasn't really mad. You have to do what you find works best for you. You have to be yourself.
I find painting upon request a greater challenge than painting on my own. I am easily inspired by life to paint, but often when presented with a request, am uninspired. Fortunately for this patron the baby was cute as all heck and I enjoyed every minute of the work.
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